What if… and what about… and whatever comes after those words are irrelevant all the time. Life doesn’t operate on ‘what if’s’. ‘What about’ is usually followed by a contradictory statement about something other than the subject at hand. Life operates on the here and now and what has already happened. Science operates in the same manner. It’s the measurable quantum that is subjected, not the reason behind its existence. The reason behind something is subjective and can be argued against. These may simply be hackneyed ideas that you’ve read somewhere else on some other occasion when in some other frame of mind.
My point here is this times change. Things change. People change. Life does that to everyone to a certain extent. Here’s a story to illustrate my point:
There was a young man of about 20 years old. No wife. No children. He had money to do as he pleased. In the following 15 years, he gambled, he traveled, he dated many women, but never very long, he drank, he rested, he met many people. He experienced life. He learned from his errors. He was thankful for his gains and losses. Every day that passed, less surprised him because he had experienced more. He saw that many things simply just didn’t matter in the grand scheme of life. The sun was going to come up every morning and the sun went away every night. Babies were born every day, and people of all ages, colors, and genders died every day. Nothing was a shock, because as he grew older, he saw that all of life is monotony that is interrupted with unscheduled bouts of chaos.
He became older and found a wife, had children, and saw his parents decline in health. He valued what he had, but wished for no fame, no glory, and only prayed for more money to pay his debts to allow him more time at home than time at work. He valued time, not possessions. He valued real memories and experiences over the vapid adoration and senseless arguments confined within social media. He valued timeless wisdom and overall contentment over temporary possessions.
Some would say in his later years that he became a cynical old man who had no excitement in him, but this was far from the truth. The world around him became more about instantaneous gratification and façade of beauty while becoming less about the wisdom that comes with age and the quality and rarity of special moments. The things that were glorified were things that didn’t concern him. He saw the decline of society, and how it had changed the people around him. The world changed. He changed. Yet, one of those changes was not for the better.
Find what matters. Value your time. Cherish your moments.